Dirty Version
What should I be doing with my mouth and tongue when giving head? What exactly do I need to do to give good head? Actually this is the part that I feel comes naturally or should come naturally. What really makes a blowjob great is your attitude - loving his cock, loving sucking and licking it, taking the time to prepare the environment, making the blowjob a special occasion for him, making sure he is comfortable, making him feel like a king! This is what really makes a blowjob great. But here are a few pointers to help when you are getting down to the physical part of giving him the best head ever!
How to Suck His Cock - Main Techniques
Taking His Cock in Your Mouth
Your tongue is an agile instrument of pleasure and should always be moving around, sliding over his cock or balls. When you take him into your mouth, be sure that you are using your tongue! Just by moving your tongue left to right, back and forth and undulating it to apply pressure with different parts you will be vastly increasing the pleasure than if your tongue is being passive. Always keep your tongue in contact with his cock when his cock is in your mouth!
But your tongue is rough and bumpy. Due to it being a taste sense organ, it is covered with nodules called taste buds that are very textured. This can feel good, but as you might know from feeling his tongue on your own place of pleasure - it can sometimes be a little uncomfortable. It's too much. So to put a layer between that rough surface and his cock, collect a gob of saliva on your tongue (especially when you first put him in your mouth) and first contact should be right on that pile of love spit (as the Sasha Grey signature lube is called). Then just smear it around and that slippery friction is what will feel great!
Too Much Saliva
Too much is a good amount of saliva to have when you are giving head. Saliva is the lubricant for your blowjob (if you aren't using something like good flavoured lube). Use it to lube your hand too. That’s right - sucking cock is a wet and slippery game so dive in. Smear your saliva around with your tongue, lips and fingers and not just on his cock - all the way from his cock to his anus (yep! his ass hole!) feels good when it has a slippery hand or tongue gliding over it.
The best blowjob tip as far as saliva goes is this: don't swallow the saliva that is building up in your mouth! Let it drool out to lubricate the hand that should be stroking the rest of his cock that isn't in your mouth or the hand that is cradling his balls.
Variety
Don't just be bobbing your head on his cock for 20 minutes. This will get you and him nowhere. You probably can appreciate that something done over and over again (even when it feels really good at the start) can come to have a numbing effect, so using a variety of blowjob techniques is really important. There are no specific techniques you have to use because there are no set of techniques that are going to be the best for every guy. Try what comes naturally and look to his reactions.
Variety can be how you move your tongue and lips, how hard or softly you are sucking, the speed, and the temperature. See these blowjob tips for specific ways you can add variety to your blowjob style.
Suck His Cock Too
In other words, don't just suck his cock the whole time. Giving head is about giving supreme pleasure, and his cock isn't the only pleasure point on his body. So spend some time exploring his body. Do this when you need a break (if your jaw is getting sore) or do this while you are sucking, by exploring his belly, chest, thighs and butt with your hands.
Use Your Hands
It's not cheating to use your hands. A blowjob doesn't have to be limited to cock-mouth contact. Stroke him with your hands or your breasts too!
Use Toys
You are sucking his cock, stroking his hard length and occasionally slipping him between your soft breasts for a titty-fuck intermission. Can a blowjob get any better? - How about adding a toy? Guys are becoming more and more open to the idea of anal pleasure and there are great prostate massagers (we love Bob) for guys you can use. Or try adding vibrations! - Your mouth on his cock with a vibe pressed firmly against his taint (between balls and anus) will add amazing sensations.
Above all, enthusiasm is the most important thing when giving head. Enthusiasm is the energy that will bring all the rest of what makes a great blowjob to you. Enthusiasm will lead you to variation, and exploring his body, and to learning all the little techniques that when applied with enthusiasm make for amazing head!
A really advanced technique that definitely requires enthusiasm (just to even learn) is deepthroating, covered in the next chapter.
