Dirty Version
This is the dirty version of the blowjob guide - I like to be crude sometimes. We do have a cleaner version of how to deepthroat.
How can I learn how to deepthroat his cock? How can I get past my gag reflex? How can I practice deepthroating? Deepthroating is taking a cock that is longer than your mouth is deep further into your mouth so it is forced into your throat. Your body won't like that and will protest strongly. The cock being forced into your throat will make your body think you are choking. To deepthroat you must overcome your body's natural reflex of constricting your throat, gagging and even vomiting in an effort to expel the intrusion by. It is a strong reflex - your body wants to protect your ability to breathe, but it can be overcome.
Why Men Love Deepthroat
Men love their cocks as the symbol of their manhood - representing masculinity, strength and power. And they want you to love it. Men are visually aroused. Taking his cock fully into your mouth, so far that it enters your throat, perhaps making you gag and choke a little is an extremely powerful way to show you want and love his cock. And what a sight to see you do that, then see his whole cock come spilling out of your mouth.
So as well as being a visual turn on and showing your unbound love for his cock, it also feels fucking good. Your mouth is a wonderful way to pleasure a man’s cock - it is warm, wet, your tongue can stimulate him in multiple ways, but cocks are built to respond to penetration - pushing into something. And your throat is a soft, slippery, and especially tight. The penetrating feeling in combination with tight and slippery makes deepthroating an amazing sensation for a man’s cock.
How to Practice Deepthroat
Before you start, you should get it into your head that it is going to take a long time. You won't see any improvement for a while, then you might get a little further and feel like you are as far as you can go but to really learn how to deepthroat your mans cock, you need to keep practicing. Even when you feel you are getting nowhere, keep practicing. Also, realise a practice session is hard work. Initially and for a long time, you will be working to suppress your gag reflex by attempting to push something into your throat, either his cock or a practice dildo and it can result in unpleasant feelings. You won't get to the end unless you have discipline.
I will assume you are using a practice dildo - this is best because you can make practice a more regular thing, even if your lover isn't available. And there are some more reasons why using a practice dildo is a good idea.
Start with your fingers and just explore your mouth and the back of your throat. It's easy to do this while you are in the shower so that your hands are clean and the mess can easily wash away. It can be quite easy to slip two fingers into your throat simply by placing the pads of your fingers on to your tongue and following your tongue down your throat. Practice doing this for as long as you can hold it. Pull your fingers out before you gag, but try to get as close to that point as possible. If you start feeling like you are getting too close to puking, call it a day. But don't forget to keep trying tomorrow. Each day you should be able to do it for a little bit longer.
When you are comfortable sucking your fingers and taking them into your throat, it's time to graduate to a deepthroat practice dildo. You want something long, slim and bendy. You can see some example of some good deepthroat practice dildos at the BlowjobHow Toy Shop. With the practice dildo, you might find you can't get it into your throat like your fingers can. It won't follow your tongue down and so hits against the back of your throat which really brings that gag back. So again you need to work up to getting over that simply by exposing your throat to that feeling as much as you can. Eventually you will get used to. And then you have to just take a bit of a plunge and push that dildo into your throat. It will feel weird, and you can expect it to feel a little weird for a while afterward too - like you have something caught in your throat. This will go away after a little while.
Try to practice for as long as you can handle that cock or dildo fucking your throat but don't expect to be able to practice for a long time from the start. The first time you shouldn't feel bad if after one hacking gag you have to stop for the day. But if you want to be able to take a long hard cock down your throat till his pubes are tickling your nostrils then practice. For some it comes easy, but everyone should give themselves at least 3 months of once a day practicing to be able to get the cock into your throat. And give yourself even more time to be able to take it in and hold it - to rid yourself of your gag reflex.
The Anatomy of Deepthroating
A cock in fuck mode is a long, thick, hard and pretty straight piece of love meat (although there is a huge variety!). Your pussy is perfectly designed to accommodate a long, thick, hard cock, but your throat is not. But that doesn't mean deepthroating shouldn't be. Learning new ways to pleasure a partner is what good sex is all about!
So while his cock is long, hard, thick and pretty much straight, your throat isn't. Your mouth cavity is somewhat horizontal, while your throat is mostly vertical. That amounts to a 90 degree bend in there somewhere. So the problem comes when trying to get an unbending straight thing into a cavity that isn't. Unfortunately cocks don't bend (but that's kind of what makes them so great). Luckily, we can bend our necks to align our mouth and throat cavity.
Another interesting thing to note is that while an erect penis cannot be bent downward they can often be bent more easily upward. And I mean bent, not angled. Think bending in half vs angling it like a lever.
Best Positions for Deepthroating
The Sixty-nine
Taking the bending into account, one position that allows for easy deepthroat (so that his cock can more easily bend with the bend in your throat) is the sixty-nine or sixty-eight. Lie him down on his back first, and then get into the sixty-nine position by straddling his face and leaning down to suck his cock. For the sixty-eight, simply un-straddle his face and kneel beside his head.
The Edge of the Bed Dangle
A classic way to really open your throat is to lie on your back on your bed with your head hanging off the edge. Experiment with positioning (ie. how far your head is hanging off the edge) as well as with pillows. The idea is to get your mouth and throat as aligned as possible. Your man then positions himself in front of your mouth and pushes his cock into your mouth. Suck his hard cock and when you are ready, reach behind him and grab his ass and pull him into your mouth and into your throat. Make sure he knows to pull out when you need him to. This position is a great position for first taking him into your throat but just be sure he knows to go slow and to follow your directions – ie. when to push in, when to pull out.
When to Deepthroat
Deepthroating is a great show-off move. Show-off moves are a way to show your man that you’re are confident, you know how to suck his cock and they are a massive turn on for him. It's something you don't need to do for a long time. Do it once and he may ask you to do that again but just be aware of your throat (don't injure yourself) and your stomach (you don't want to puke all over him).
If you can hold his cock in your throat, deepthroating is a great way to finish a blowjob too. Just as he starts coming, take him deep into your throat and let his come shoot straight into your stomach.
Learning how to deepthroat isn't easy, it takes a long time and dedication, but once you are able to do it you will feel more confident in your oral skills and you are guaranteed your guy will love it. So get started practicing on your lover or a practice dildo today.
