Safe Sex Tips

Sex is fun and it feels good and we love it. The unfortunate thing is unsafe sex in promiscuity leads to the transmission of sexual diseases. Being knowledgeable about sexual disease is just as, if not more important than, being knowledgeable about sex itself. Or more appropriately, the two should go hand in hand.

BlowjobHow is written with the spirit of fun sexuality in mind but here we address the more serious aspect of sexual health and safety.

Oral sex is an act where we often totally forget to practice safe-sex. It is drilled into us that we must use a condom every time we have sex and for many this is now an accepted part of intercourse. However, when it comes to oral sex, condoms are rarely used.

 

Some Facts

  • Sexual diseases are transferred via blood and sexual secretions, including male and female cum and pre-come.
  • You can contract a sexual disease from an unprotected blowjob if you have sores in your mouth (you may not realise you have them).
  • Brushing your teeth after receiving his cum in your mouth can create small cuts in your gums, exposing you to potential STD's.
  • Herpes is the most prevalent orally sexually transmitted disease. There are two main types - oral and genital but these can both be transmitted genital to mouth and vice-versa. Herpes is treatable (as in treat a headache with a painkiller) but not curable (as in once you get it you have got it for life), so use those condoms!
  • Chlamydia, one of the most prevalent general sexually transmitted diseases can infect the cervix, urethra, rectum, throat and eyes. This means you can get it by giving a blowjob to a carrying partner or from receiving a blowjob from a carrying partner.
  • Some diseases can remain silent in one person (meaning they are not visible and give no symptoms) and still be contagious. Some disease may show no symptoms in men yet when contracted by women they are actively destructive.
  • Many people who have a sexual disease are unaware they are a carrier.
  • Condoms are the most effective STD prevention if you are going to have sex or oral sex.

 

BlowjobHow is an oral sex guide for committed couples. If you are in a committed relationship and don't use condoms - it is recommended standard practice to get tested together every 6 months.

If you are sexually active but aren’t in a committed monogamous relationship where both partners are tested negative for sexual diseases then using condoms and dental dams for all aspects of sex - including oral sex! - is a must.

 

What To Do

Follow these simple rules to minimise your chance of transmitting or contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

 

  • Use condoms every time. That means oral, vaginal and anal sex. Follow all directions included in the package.
  • Avoid contact with semen and other sexual fluids during and after sex.
  • Stay aware of yourself when engaging in sexual activity. Intoxication can lower your vigilance when it comes to using condoms correctly and every time.
  • Equip yourself. Keep condoms and lube in places you will need them. Also equip yourself with knowledge. Knowing about disease, risks, prevention, etc is another way to be confident about sex and safety.

 

Fun Safe Sex

Safe sex means using condoms. Not only to avoid unplanned pregnancies but also to avoid spreading and contracting sexual diseases. To be completely safe, condoms should be used for all sex – vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse and fellatio.

Make your safe sex fun by using condoms designed for oral sex – they come in various flavours that are more appealing to the palate than latex and spermicidal lube. An alternative is to use ultra thin condoms with flavoured blowjob lube - a great way to increase the sensation as well as have fun trying out different flavours. Adding a dollop of regular lube to the inside of the condom for a blowjob will give a wetter feel for him, and guys love wetter. (If you put too much inside, be sure to hold the condom down as it may start to slip - thats why this trick is only for blowjobs.)

Dental dams should be available where condoms are sold, but if you can’t find any, regular plastic wrap works the same way, or unroll a condom then cut it lengthways to make the tube a sheet. Smear your vulva with lube then lay the dam over the lube. He will have to hold it in place, but for those who don’t like direct tongue attention to their clit, this is a great new feeling.

 

Using a Condom

Condoms - Safe sex tipsIf you don’t have much experience with using condoms, they can sometimes be tricky. Remember to pinch the air out of the top, and roll it all the way to the base of the penis. If you have trouble putting on the condom, don’t worry. Just laugh it off, slow down and go back to what you were doing before you needed the condom and when you are ready, get another condom and try again. Never use a condom twice. Never use a condom with torn packaging. Never use an expired condom.

 

 

For more information about sexual disease and health - avert.org.