What is a blowjob?

Definition of a Blowjob

A blowjob, known by many names including its technical term: fellatio is the act of providing sexual stimulation to a man using one's mouth. This is generally done through various different styles of licking and sucking his penis and scrotum. Often the giver will use her hands to assist in providing said sexual stimulation. A blowjob can be a primer to intercourse or other sexual activities, or it can come to its own end with the man ejaculating from the orally administered pleasure.

But that is a technical definition. Just like sex, and many other things in life and relationships, there is so much more to a blowjob. For starters, men and women undoubtedly have different perceptions of what a blowjob is and furthermore, what a blowjob means.

 

What is a Blowjob: From a Woman's Perspective

A blowjob is selflessly providing sexual pleasure to your lover (unless you are enjoying the classic 69 position). A blowjob can be a chore. A blowjob can be power. A blowjob is being able to spoil him, to focus entirely on what can be the most gratifying sexual act for him, without distraction.

A blowjob can be a form of submission or a form of power. Depending on the mentality you approach the act with, and especially the position you take will determine (or express) whether you are taking a submissive or dominant role.

A blowjob is communication. When you are giving your lover head, it is a communication of love. Admittedly there is a lot of lust involved, but between a loving couple, sexual activity and thus head is an act of love. As with all communication, don't forget to use all communication tools at your disposal. i.e. voice, eye contact, touch, smiles.

 

What is a Blowjob: From a Man's Perspective

A blowjob is having luxurious sexual attention lavished upon you. A blowjob is egocentric pleasure. A blowjob can be power, or submission. A blowjob can sometimes be giving in to being spoiled by a generous lover who you want to give pleasure at the same time.

A blowjob is a fantasy. It is common knowledge that men think about sex far more than women - a conservative ratio from the Telegraph says men: 13 times per day; women: 5 times per day. Thoughts of blowjobs occupy many of those thirteen daily forays into fantasy world. Men think about blowjobs a lot and are either thinking about something they want or something they have had. Be the 'something he has had' fantasy by giving him the best head he has ever had, be the 'something he wants' fantasy by teasing him with a blowjob he has coming.

A blowjob is also acceptance. A man's penis and his ego are for most men interwoven. Receiving a blowjob from a lover is a wonderful thing just for the fact that she is giving so much attention to the organ that defines his gender. That it feels good physically of course helps too.

A blowjob is, for many men, one of their first sexual experiences and thus is strongly associated with their feelings of what sex should be. Because it is one of their first sexual experience, it can be a strongly intimate act. Some men claim they find oral sex better than intercourse, and considering it is the first act of intimacy for many men, it is not difficult to understand why they might see it this way.

A blowjob is the best. This is what some men say, and many people - men and women find that oral sex is the most pleasurable for of sex. Something about lying back and just receiving a lovers lustful ministrations doesn't disagree with that.