Blowjob Guide - Understand Him

Penis Psychology - Understand Him and His Penis

Once you understand a little bit about the psychology of a guy and his penis, this will help you to know why guys love blowjobs so much and you can use this information to help you give a better blowjob. Just FYI, this is not a psychology paper and the author is not a psychologist, but what follows generally holds true for most guys.

Penis and Ego
These days, it’s not in vogue to admit you care about the size of your penis or that it has any effect on your confidence but the truth is most guys from the cockiest to the shiest have some of their confidence (or lack of) wrapped up in their penis. Every man loves his cock which is why no guy ever wants to be called “small”. If you can love his cock as much as he secretly does then he will love you for it!

Roles and Acceptance
A man’s cock and balls are the embodiment of his masculinity and gender. When it comes to the sexual part of a relationship it is the man’s role to make the woman feel exquisitely beautiful, protected, desired, loved and womanly. In reciprocation it is the woman’s role to make the man feel wanted, needed, desired, loved and manly.

Over and above all, both should feel completely accepted by the other. So knowing that his cock and balls are the pride of his manliness, how does this relate to blowjobs?

Well, what stronger act of acceptance is there to show all this than taking his penis into your mouth? When he sees you treating his cock and balls with such love, you aren't just stimulating the nerves, you are also showing his ego that you love this part of him that makes him a man, and that is a big turn on for him.

To emphasise the point, imaging a woman about to give a blowjob then holding up the man’s cock with a look of disgust. “Do you really want me to put this in my mouth?” How can that man feel loved, manly and accepted? And even if she proceeds, he may enjoy the blowjob physically, but he won’t feel good about it*, and he won’t feel accepted. Loving and accepting him and his manly cock and enjoying him in your mouth is the essence of how to give a blowjob. Use this knowledge with the techniques on following pages and you will understand how to give an amazing blowjob!

*A blowjob, like all sex, is only partly about the physical stimulation. Arrousing your lover mentally is hugely important. It has been said "The brain is the biggest sex organ", and as such it should be stimulated. Play on his pride by showing you love his cock. Play on his fantasies by letting him see while you enjoy sucking his cock.

Come
There is a strange reverence of semen. Men love to shoot their come on to a woman. They like you to swallow. They like watching the final part of a porn scene where the guy come's on the girls face, or in her mouth. It's weird and most men probably couldn't explain why.

If you think about come as the male essence of procreation then is easy to see why, at a basic level, it is the object of such fascination.

So this may help you understand why he likes to come inside your mouth when you are giving him head. Also it is said to feel better not to pull out of a warm, wet, soft, nice place - and makes sense too. However, most men in loving committed relationships whose girlfriend or wife doesn't swallow don't care. They may fantasise about it, but when it comes down to it, if the woman they love doesn't like it then they don't want her to do it.

Given how powerful a man's come is on a basic level - one could call it the essence of life if one were so grandly inclined - swallowing it is one way to show you share the respect for it. But if this isn't for you, simply taking a second to admire the ejaculate will give a similar feeling of acceptance and pride to your lover. You don't even have to say anything, just acknowledge it, and don't be disgusted! So if you are worried about swallowing his come, fret not! You can still play with his mentality with something as simple as a sweet smile at the sight of him coming to let him see you are as fascinated as he is by his essence of procreation you have both evoked from his body.

So why do guys love blowjobs so much? Well, if it is a good blowjob then not only will it feel good physically but also he will feel his cock is admired and adored - and with his cock being the definition of his manliness (in the sexual/reproduction meaning) this will make him feel like a real man.

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