Blowjob Technique Basics

This part of our how to give a blowjob guide describes the techniques to take him from warmed up to ready to come. These techniques are the basics that should be the foundation of every blowjob.

However you bring your man to the brink, remember to let him see what you enjoy about his cock and bringing him this tantalising pleasure. Showing your enjoyment, along with some basic blowjob skills, is the key to how to give a great blowjob.

The man’s cock and woman’s vagina are made for each other. When giving a blowjob you are creating a substitute pussy so remember what makes your pussy great and emulate that with your mouth - ie. no teeth, warm, wet, soft.

Use Your Tongue

For the main part of the blowjob, use your tongue to maximise frictional contact. In other words, when his cock is in your mouth, keep your tongue pressed against his shaft.

When you come up to the head, you can swirl your tongue around the head or just give it an extra flick, keeping him inside your mouth. As you move back down his cock, move your tongue back to the front of your mouth to once again press against the shaft. The idea is that as you move your mouth up and down his cock, your tongue should be conforming to his cock, maintaining contact and that delicious friction.

Try to get your tongue everywhere, but the place to focus your tongue is the underside of the head. Move your tongue around the frenulum, which is the small bit of skin where the foreskin seems to come together and join the shaft, right below the pee hole. (We actually have frenulum in many places, and there is one under your tongue - to see it, lift your tongue up and it the the tight piece of skin "holding " your tongue down.)

Use Saliva

While you are sucking on his cock, don’t be worried if saliva dribble or bubbles out of your mouth.A good blowjob should be wet anyway, and when his cock is dripping wet, your lips will slide up and down his shaft smoothly. And from a guy’s perspective it is also pretty sexy to see a woman comfortable enough to not worry about what she looks like and just enjoy sucking his cock.

Use Your Whole Mouth

Let his cock into your mouth as far back as you can accept. Go slowly to avoid gagging but if you do gag a little, don’t worry because he won’t. He will be busy enjoying the blowjob and won’t think anything bad about you getting a little over ambitous with his cock. And he might even get a thrill out of having a cock that is "too big".

Use Your Lips

But use them wisely. You're lips should never try to take the place of your hand. If you try to jack him off with your lips (a common mistake) you'll just end up with sore, chafed lips. Use you lips during a blowjob to kiss and gently suck just the head of his cock or up and down the side of his cock.

Your lips are sexy, so let him see them. That is their biggest power. Men are sexually visual so let him see your lips on his cock.

Take Small Breaks

When giving a blowjob you should work strong and steadily but every so often take a detour to pay attention to his balls or even his anus, lick and kiss his belly or chest or go up and kiss him. But whenever you take your mouth off his cock, remember to keep the contact and motion going with your hand. Getting him to the peak is like hiking to top of a snowy mountain wearing skis; getting to the top is slow and steady work and stopping is like pointing your skis downhill. All that work is undone very quickly. So if your mouth comes off, your hand must go on.

Up and Down

Friction is what gets him to come. So you will be bobbing your head to mimick the in-out penetrating motion of sex. But don’t think you have to go fast the whole time. Your tongue will be providing most of the pleasure, and with this extra ‘feature’ your pussy doesn’t have, a moderate speed is all that’s needed.

Also, consider urging him to thrust slowly into your mouth for a while. This will allow you to rest your neck, and thrusting is a catalyst for men's orgasm.

Use Your Hand

Using your hand is not cheating. You don't have to use your hand all the time but trying to get a man to come with your mouth alone is something you might expect as a punishment in some kind of BDSM themed story. Not using your hand is depriving him of extra pleasure! Your hand will provide pressure and a stroking motion that you can't comfortably provide with your mouth alone. Your mouth is soft and warm and wet. Your hand is strong and fast. Use them together.

Variation

You definitely want to keep your focus around the head to bring him to the brink, with a general in-out motion, but you may also want to try a variety of different speeds, motions, techniques. Doing the same thing has a numbing effect and so variety is good but remember that whatever crazy new techniques, tips or skills you learn, they are only really an entertaining time out before you get back to what will actually get him to orgasm - the in-out friction focus on the head.

These are the basics and all you really need in combination with some enthusiasm (LOVE HIS COCK!!) to give your lover a great blowjob. That really is the truth of it. Simple technique plus the 'LOVE IT!!' attitude is all you need to give a great blowjob.

Read about finishing techniques next to wrap up your otherwise amazing blowjob.