Blowjob Psychology

Once you learn a little bit about the psychology of a man and his penis, this will help you understand why guys love blowjobs so much. Then you can use this information to help you give better head.

Disclosure: this is not a psychology paper and the author is not a psychologist, but what follows generally holds true for most guys.

Confidence

Psychology brain

Blowjobs aren't just about physical pleasure. Use psychology and blow his brain too for the best head.

These days, it's not in vogue for men to admit they care about the size of their penis, or that it has any effect on their confidence. The truth however, is that most guys, from the cockiest to the shiest have some of their confidence (or lack of) wrapped up in their penis.

Every man loves his cock. Men with large penises have a strange sense of confidence based on the size of this body part and men with small cocks can seem shy about it.

There's no medical or reproductive reason for this confidence or lack of it - it's a purely cultural phenomenon - it's a fashion trend. Did you know large penises were once considered grotesque! But these days, it's considered an insult and can be confidence crushing to call a guy's willy "small".

So, if you can love his cock as much as he secretly does, your love will be a source of confidence for him and he will love you for it!

Masculinity

A man's cock and balls are the physical definition of his gender and in some ways, a symbol of his masculinity. At least, this is the way male genitalia is portrayed.

Even though masculinity is a construct of society; a behavior that is taught; a series of ideals that change with time like fashion trends for new generations; it plays a big part into why his penis is so important to him.

A Masculine Role

When it comes to sex, the masculine role is to make the woman feel exquisitely beautiful, protected, desired, loved and feminine. Masculine behavior in sexuality is attentiveness, love, and fiery passion.

In reciprocation it is the feminine role is to make the man feel wanted, needed, desired, loved and masculine. Feminine behavior in sexuality is tender care, sensuality, and passion that stems from a sensitive empathy.

Regardless of the current societal belief about what is masculine and what is feminine (these roles change with the times and presently are being incredibly damaged by pornography), heterosexual sex is a place where we admire and take pleasure in the beauty of our partner.

Worshipping Masculinity

Because of the current societal definition of masculinity that very few men can fail to feel, a man's penis is very important to him.

A blowjob is a form of worship - the worship of sexual pleasure, but also the worship of a man's genitalia - a physical representation of his masculinity.

By loving his cock in this worshipful way, by taking his penis into your mouth, you show acceptance of his manhood.

When he sees you treating his cock and balls with such love, you aren't just stimulating the nerves, you are also showing his ego that you love this part of him that makes him a man, and that is a big turn on for him.

By giving a loving blowjob that goes beyond simply trying to make him cum and shows him you love his cock - you show him you love his masculinity, something society also values very highly and a blowjob becomes empowering - your loving attention assures him of his manliness.

To emphasize the point, imaging a woman about to give a blowjob then holding up the man's cock with a look of disgust. "Do you really want me to put this in my mouth?" How can that man feel loved, manly and accepted? And even if she proceeds, he may enjoy the blowjob physically, but he won't feel good about it, and he won't feel accepted. Loving and accepting him and his manly cock and enjoying him in your mouth is the essence of how to give a blowjob.

Guilt

Ever cut the cake and save the biggest slice for yourself? If you end up feeling guitly about it - that's the guilt of selfishness.

When it comes to fellatio, your partner will be unable completely enjoy himself if there is any guilt in receiving that blowjob.

The situation where a decent man might feel guilty is if he's always getting head but never returning the favor. It comes down to balance.

When you're on the receiving end of oral sex, you have to be comfortable with all the attention, temporarily, focused on you. If the oral sex tally balances, this shouldn't be a problem.

If he already owes a lot of pussy-licking, a subtle sense of guilt will overshadow the blowjob as his side of the tally falls deeper into the red.

Like most things psychological, this one is subtle, but if you want your man to be able to fully enjoy it when you give him a blowjob, he has to be going down on you too. Of course, I don't want to tell you how often each of you should be giving head - this is something you figure out between the two of you - but as a general rule, balance is a good place to aim for.

Most porn focuses on the man's pleasure, so if your partner is a porn user, he may not even think you need or want cunnilingus. If his sexual outlook has been influenced by an industry that promotes the male orgasm as the only goal of sex he may not even know why sex doesn't feel as good as it should.

If you teach him how to go down on you how you like it, you're creating an environment where he can enjoy a blowjob knowing his partner is also satisfied and not feel guilty or selfish about only receiving pleasure for the duration of your blowjob. In a way, it would be selfish of you not to teach him how to lick your pussy how you like it. You deserve to see his pleasure and he deserves to see yours!

Long story short, your man can enjoy a blowjob guilt free if he's giving you the good too.

Cum

There is a strange reverence of semen. Men like to shoot their cum on to a woman. They love it when you swallow. Men enjoy porn that ends with a visible cum-shot, and viewers often react by pointing out the lack of the vital money shot in the comments section. It's a weird fascination and most men probably couldn't explain it.

But if you consider cum to be the male essence of procreation then perhaps it's a little easier to see why it is the object of such obsession.

This may help you understand why he likes to come inside your mouth when you are giving him head. Also it is said to feel better - and it makes sense they don't want to pull out of a nice, soft, wet, warm place like you mouth.

Given the portrayed importance and subsequent reverence for cum - swallowing his cum demonstrates loving acceptance. There's also something sexy about it. Some women love to do it, but it's not for everyone.

If you can't stomach swallowing the goop, simply taking a moment to admire his ejaculate can elicit a similar feeling of acceptance and pride to your lover. You don't even have to say anything - just acknowledge his ejaculation and avoid any kind of body language or comment that indicates rejection!

You can even maintain this feeling of loving acceptance for his orgasm without even tasting it. Play to his mentality with something as simple as a sweet smile at the sight of him coming to let him see you are as fascinated as he is by his essence of procreation you have both aroused from his body.

Psychology Makes Great Blowjobs

So why do guys love blowjobs so much? Sure a good blowjob will feel good physically, but a great blowjob will also reach to his psyche and make him feel his cock is admired and adored.

Knowing that psychologically, his cock is the physical representation of his manliness; that his cum is more than just a slimy ejaculate; you can give him a blowjob that not only feels good physically but also bolsters his masculine confidence and leaves him feeling sated and loved in a way an inattentive blowjob never would.