Question
He's older and it's my first blowjob, what should I do? - I am sexually inexperienced and am dating a man about 10 years my senior (we're both adults-20s and 30s here-no worries). I've never even given a blowjob before because I was never that attracted to anyone to want their prize anywhere near my mouth. This guy, however, drives me crazy and I would love to pleasure him to no end...I am just nervous about "practicing" on him. I want him to enjoy himself. He deserves it. Is inexperience a turn-off in this area, even when enthusiasm is involved? Also, how should I let him know?
Answer
Well, I am really happy you have finally found someone you want to give a blowjob! Congratulations, to you and him. So first things first, don't worry about being sexually inexperienced. The only way that being inexperienced will be a burden to you is that you will have a lot of perceptions of what will or should happen when you give you lover a blowjob (or do anything else for that matter) and this can prevent you from fully enjoying these intimate and sexual acts in a natural and innocent way.
One of the best things about being inexperienced, as we all are until we gain that experience, is that it is very easy for us to learn about our partners. In a way, I am contradicting what I just said in the paragraph above so let me explain further. Everything we see in the various medias and hear from friends, etc, can give us ideas of what should happen and what we should do and how we should behave and react and so we have a sort of handicap to learning how to react how we want; the preconceptions tainting our natural reactions. But it think we can learn to get over these as we progress. The other side of the coin is that inexperience actually lets us approach our partners and the playful and fun act of love without the preconceptions of how things should go we have learnt with other partners. So I think your inexperience will actually make you a better lover in the long term.
The last thing I want to say about these preconceptions is to try and approach the blowjob without them. One of the most common questions I get revoloves around not being able to get him to come with a blowjob. It's not so easy and can take a long time for some guys to come from a blowjob, others not so long and you don't know how long it will take you with him!. So go and give him your best blowjob, but don't worry if things don't go the way you hoped. The perfect blowjob often isn't planned, it just happens, sometimes. I once gave my parter a blowjob on his brithday. I wanted it to be the best blowjob ever but for whatever reason, it was a little stiff. (Sorry, bad pun.) Maybe there was too much pressure on us both - me to perform and him to enjoy it. The next day, I gave him another blowjob, not to make up for anything, just because it happened and that one was way better. That's just the way it works sometimes. So don't worry if he doesn't come, or if your first time with him isn't so great, it will get great.
And that brings me to practice. Don't be nervous about practicing on him! I have a guy friend who likes to say "Any pizza is good pizza." I like this because it generally applies to guys opinions of blowjobs too.
I don't think inexperience is a turn off and I don't think he will either especially when, as you say, you would love to pleasure him to no end. One of the biggest pleasures is someone wanting to do this for you. If you've ever seen The Vagina Monologues, there is a section where one woman started loving her vagina because of how much some guy loved looking at it. No doubt she started loving that guy too. The same applies to men. The physical pleasure is only half of what makes blowjobs so great. You going down there and showing him how much you love his cock is part of why guys love blowjobs too and in my opinion is what seperates ok blowjobs from amazing ones. If you love his cock and show him you love it, you're doing it right. The physical actions, which I'm guessing is what you are worried about, you will learn as you go along.
Now, the last thing you asked, I'm not really sure what you are refering to. Do you want to let him know you are inexperienced or that you want to pleasure him to no end or that you are nervous about practicing on him? In any case, I don't think you can go wrong by just telling him. The only thing is, whatever you tell him, save that "I want to pleasure you to no end" part till the end, because that is sure to put a smile in his heart, if not his on his face. Good luck and enjoy!
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