Question

Am I going backwards? I'm 19 & I'm a virgin. I've been going out with a guy a couple of years older than me for almost a year. He's been on various relationships before, even with older women. Meanwhile, he's actually my first everything.

When I gave him blowjobs the first couple of times he used to last a lot & his reaction was amazing. He used to even kiss me after I swallowed his cum, I was really shy about it the first time & I told him I thought guys found it gross, but his response to that made me happy.

Anyways, we see each other like once or twice a month because we live a couple hours apart. So I always try to end our dates by getting him off giving him handjobs & then blowjobs. The last couple of times, I didn't realized it until after the "horniness" wore off, but I had to basically beg him to let me suck his cock. Yesterday, he came in like 1-2 minutes after I put it in my mouth. He didn't even foreplay with me, he used to love playing with my boobs while we make out and stuff like that. I remember while I was sucking him he said "don't stop" a couple of times & after I swallowed he didn't even kissed me or said anything until I said goodbye.

I don't know if my blowjobs are horrible or what. The very first time he told me it was amazing & every time he encourage me complimenting my blowjob skills because he really liked it. I'm supposed to get better because I've been practicing with him but it seems I'm going backwards. I know he can hold it for as long as he wants because he used to do it every time & I loved it. I don't know if he is coming that fast because he just wants me to stop because my sucking skills actually suck.

Answer

So you want to know if your boyfriend is coming quickly to avoid your terrible blowjobs.

I don't think so.

In my experience, guys can't control their orgasms like that and they certainly can't orgasm on cue. But here's what I think is happening... (and this may be way off, so please try talking to your boyfriend and finding out from the only person who can really know - him!)

I think you are getting better at being able to make him come. But I think you are going straight to this part of the blowjob and so he orgasms very quickly. Also, he may be coming quickly because he "saves" himself for when he is with you (by which I mean he doesn't masturbate for a few days prior to meeting you).

But back to your skill in making him come - there are two parts to a blowjob. One part is not about making him come, just about giving pleasure. The second is about making him orgasm. Take your time licking up his shaft, sucking his balls, sucking him softly to extend his pleasure. After a period of time, go to a stronger, more steady up and down sucking combined with your hand stroking his cock with a firm grip to bring him to orgasm. I think maybe you have gotten very good at the second part but forgotten about the first part. Also, when you enjoy the first part is when your blowjob truly become great, I think.

Regarding his lack of foreplay, I think he also has forgotten an important part of sex - pleasuring his partner. This is what the first part of a blowjob is all about - extending the pleasure and I think he has forgotten about drawing out your pleasure. He is getting lazy.

So, again, I'm just guessing - you should talk to him - but I think he's getting lazy about providing your sexual pleasure and you are getting too good at making him come quickly, forgetting to make his blowjob last longer. In consolation, I don't think this is uncommon as relationships continue, but it's better if you can realize what is happening and address it, fix it and enjoy mutual sexual pleasure.

 

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