Question

Is a penile skin bridge weird or a turn off? So I've never had a blowjob before, but was wanting to know ahead of time if a girl would think it's weird or not. I happen to have 3 skin bridges, one small one on the side, and two larger ones on the bottom, all of which connect the shaft to the head.

I am circumcised, and my penis is about 6 1/2 inches, so pretty moderate. My main question however is whether or not a woman would think these skin bridges were weird, and would it be a turn off? Or would they simply not care at all? Any input on this would be great, because I'm not sure whether to be self-conscious about this, as I've never been with anybody sexually, and am in a kind of weird state of mind about this.

Answer

So you want to know if a potential partner might find penile skin bridges weird, and if they would be turned off by them when giving a blowjob.

Before I answer that question though, I want to address your "state of mind". It sounds like you are self-conscious about this imperfection on your penis. I think it's natural to be self-conscious.

I was recently reading a book that talked about self-consciousness as being something that afflicts so many people today simply because we all compare ourselves with so many other people. The thing is, the people we are comparing ourselves with are those that have been chosen to be put in the spotlight and by that nature, are the more beautiful and "perfect" versions of humans.

Compared to a village girl (of boy) of a few hundred years ago who only had a dozen other children to compare herself (or himself) with, we are doomed to be self-conscious. But remember, when it comes to human relationships and interactions, our physical form counts for very little, and a friendly smile and a friendly, confident attitude is what really makes others think of you as cool or beautiful.

I say that because this also counts when it comes to sex. How your penis looks only counts for a small portion of how a woman remembers you, or how much she enjoys giving you a blowjob. What really counts is how you make her feel. (In the same way, I think your attitude when giving a blowjob counts so much more than any technique.)

So, is it weird? Yes, a penile bridge is a little weird simply because not every man has it. Still, your penis is functional and is clean (I hope and assume) and that's the most important thing for a woman when she gets down to sucking it.

Is it a turn-off. That's hard to answer because it is personal. But what's more likely to be a turn-off is an arrogant attitude, or selfishness.

What is going to turn a woman on is loving generosity, meaning that you make her feel desired and safe. Create an intimacy with smiling and laughter together. Explore the sexuality between you without breaking that feeling of safety. Make her pleasure a priority.

Do all of that and then, when she decides she wants to suck your cock to give you pleasure in return, she'll barely notice any skin bridges because it's not your penis she is interested in. With the intimacy you've built and her arousal leading her, it's your pleasure that has become important.

Still, she may be curious about the skin bridges. This is just another opportunity to show your confidence. Explain what they are. Explain they aren't painful and that they are a simply surgical issue. Reassure her they are not the result of any STD. Answer her questions if she has any. Once this curiosity is satisfied she'll probably see your penis as just that - a normal, functional penis. And the bonus is that sharing this private issue honestly and openly will have created a moment of intimacy.

Long story short, don't worry about it too much. Be honest and don't be shy. Most important, make sure she enjoys any sexual encounter with you and the fact your penis has skin bridges won't be what she remembers about you - it'll be the great times!

 

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