Question
What do I do after the blowjob? After he comes in your mouth and you decide to stop giving him a blowjob do you just stand up and start kissing him again. And do you put away his penis or when you stand up does he put it away in his pants? Also, if you are on your knees and he is standing up, do you hold his penis with one hand and how do you hold it?
Answer
So you are giving him head and the finale comes and passes (or maybe you just decide it's time to quit because he's not summiting the mountain today) and you're wondering what do you do next?
The first thing is what are you going to do with the cum. If you swallow it, then the next steps are all about riding out the aftershocks and afterglow of orgasm with your partner. If you don't swallow, then the next steps are going to be either about cleaning up or getting rid of that mouthful of semen.
Before we talk about each scenario, here's a few questions I've answered about swallowing cum:
- Why is it so important to give a guy a blowjob and swallow?
- How can I swallow without gagging?
- Am I meant to stop giving him head as soon as he comes?
I've also summed up how to finish a blowjob in the Chapter 8 of the blowjob guide - How to Finish a Blowjob
But, back to your question.
Assuming you're not going to swallow, you've got to spit out the cum. But don't leave him too soon. Most women that spit do so because cum tastes bad to them. But if you want to maximize his orgasm, keep sucking up and down gently while he's actually convulsing in orgasm, then also afterwards for a while, even more gently, as his final orgasm aftershocks shudder through him.
You may even spit it out while he's coming, simply letting it drool out of your mouth while still sucking his cock. Regardless of whether you're a tidy or messy finisher, once his first few powerful spasms have passed and you feel him coming down, slide your hands up his stomach and around his lower back (if possible) as if you are trying to calm him from the heights of his passion.
Then disengage and either clean him up or get something to spit the cum into. This should be done quickly, while facing away from him. Spitting the taste of him from your mouth can be hurtful so don't let him see your yuck face.
Rewind a bit, and this time let's assume you're going to swallow. He's coming and you're swallowing it down. He finishes. Same as above, you want to ride out his orgasm. Slow down as his orgasm subsides and start to increase body/skin contact as your intense attention to his cock falls away.
Now, regardless of whether you've swallowed, spit it out into a tissue or wiped it off his crotch, you're in about the same position. His cock is still sticking out of his pants, though it likely has deflated some. Should you kiss him or try to jam his penis back into his pants, even though it would be like trying to re-pack one of those automatically unfolding tents.
I like to think a blowjob or sex of any kind, should end the way it starts. A blowjob generally starts with some kissing and cuddling, some fondling and then a cock in your mouth. A simple rule to ending the blowjob is follow the steps that lead you in.
A blowjob is usually preceded by kissing. Kissing his mouth after a blowjob may not be the best - he's been panting and may have a bit of dry mouth, you've just had a mouthful of cum and he may not want to taste it, but you can still kiss your way away from his crotch.
The cuddling that leads into a blowjob can be imitated with simple skin to skin contact. Touch his body as described above.
The idea is that you ease your way into a blowjob and similarly, you should ease your way out.
If he is standing and you're kneeling, as described above, ride out his orgasm and eventually let his cock slip from your mouth. Feel free to kiss near his cock, slide your hands up his belly and around his back in a non-clingy embrace - more of a stroking action than an embrace, then stand up.
Let him deal with putting his cock back in his pants. Touch his arm, touch his chest, whatever feels comfortable. What's happening now is you are moving apart as lovers and falling back into being normal people. Of course, you are still lovers but for the moment, the passion is put to the side. With a stranger, this period will feel uncomfortable because you have just done something extremely intimate with a stranger. It's to be expected. But with a long term partner, this aftermath is a calm, quiet time. Just be there with him as he comes down from an intense climax.
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