Common Blowjob Questions and Answers

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How do I give a blowjob?

    • The answer to this question is easy enough to answer, but then maybe you want to know more than just how do you give a blowjob - maybe you want to know how to give a good blowjob. First the straight forward answer, then the details.
      1. How do you give a blowjob? - First you take his pants off, or somehow get his cock out into the open. Then you take his cock into your mouth and start sucking. The sucking is more about soft, wet friction that suction, so press your tongue against his cock while it is in your mouth and move your head up and down so his cock is going in and out of your mouth. There are various other tips and techniques, but that is about the basics of it.
        For more detail, see blowjob information for beginners.
      2. How do you give a good blowjob? - The difference between giving a blowjob and giving a good or great blowjob is most often attitude and of course practice. To give a good blowjob you need to know the basic technique which comes with practice, but the biggest factor that will have your lover so in love with you over this one little act is attitude. If you can enjoy the act and share that enjoyment with him so that he knows you are enjoying it, then he will enjoy it so much more.
        This site is here solely to teach you how to suck cock and to answer your blowjob questions, and you will find much more on in the main blowjob guide.

How can I keep my mouth wet when giving a blowjob?

    • It is often said about blowjobs, because it is true and because it rhymes, that "wetter is better". If you find that when you are giving head, it seems a little dry, you could try a few things:
      1. Make sure your mouth is clean and fresh. Rinse with mouthwash, brush your teeth and get your tongue too. When you start out with a minty fresh mouth, saliva just seems to come more easily.
      2. Alternatively, chew a piece of gum or suck on a MILD mint.
      3. Take his cock deep into your mouth, to the point where you the gag reflex start to kick in. Don't choke yourself, but getting close will start your saliva glands working.
      4. You can use flavored lubes to increase the wet factor. And if you have tasted normal lube, you might think "no way", but there are lubes designed exactly for this! Hello blowjob lube!
      And once the saliva starts flowing, don't ruin the effect by swallowing the saliva. Keep it in your mouth. The wetness will help promote more saliva and when it gets too much, just let it drool out to lubricate your hand that is stroking the rest of his shaft.

How can I make giving a blowjob easier?

    • It's not unnatural to get tired. You love him, you want to make him feel special, but everyone is human and the reality is, the super special "make him feel like a king" blowjobs are not an everyday activity. They are special occasion blowjobs, when you both have the time to devote special attention to each other.
      The best advice for making a blowjob easier or quicker is to use your hand and mouth together. Use your mouth on the head and your hand stroking the shaft.
      It is also important to find a comfortable blowjob position, because if you aren't comfortable then it will never be easy.

His cock is too big. What can I do?

    • Sometimes it seems like his cock really is too big for your mouth. But if you try you should be able to open your mouth wide enough you should be able to at least get the head into your mouth.
      From there it may get more difficult. Taking him further into your mouth might be harder, and you may find it uncomfortable.
      If this is the case, rather than trying to provide all the stimulation with your mouth, just suck on the head of his cock, swirling your tongue around and let your hand provide stimulation the rest of his cock. Grip the shaft, and let your saliva dribble down so your hand becomes wet and slippery. Stroke him with your hand and just take as much as you comfortably can into your mouth. With practice you might find his size isn't so intimidating, and that you can take in more than you thought.

How do I know if he is enjoying the blowjob?

    • Communication is the most important part of sexual acts, as it will help you understand how to make it better for each other - for yourself and him.
      Sometimes it's not easy to ask if he likes what you are doing, as you may feel a bit of pressure to already know what your lover wants and likes. But asking him "Does this feel good?" gives the opportunity for him to offer some guidance as to what he thinks might feel good. And as you keep trying new things, keep asking so you know what he likes. Compare two blowjob tricks and ask him which he likes better.
      Also look out for the non-verbal communication: the expression on his face; the pace of his breathing, or if he holds his breath while you do one thing, maybe he likes that (or it might hurt! - better ask which it is); or maybe you can tell by his moaning, swearing and yeah, yeah, yeah's.

What should I do with my tongue while I am sucking his cock?

    • Your tongue is the most important thing to use when giving a blowjob, so it's good to understand exactly what you can do with your tongue during a blowjob.
      You can use your tongue outside your mouth, in the same way you would lick an ice cream cone, or different variations of licking - softly, forcefully, with a wide tongue, with just the tip, quick fluttering motions, long slow licks, or swirling your tongue around the head - it really is up to you and your lover to find out what he likes best. You can also lick him anywhere from his anus to the tip of his cock (or even explore his whole body), again finding what you both like.
      But if you really want to use your tongue magic, you must remember to use it while his cock is inside your mouth. As you take the head into your mouth, keep your tongue pressed against the underside of his cock. Remember to keep doing this throughout the blowjob!
      As you move back and his cock comes out of your mouth, keep the tip of your tongue focused just under the tip, where the coronal ridge comes up to meet the urethral hole. You can even flick this area as you slide your mouth up and down to further enhance the effect, letting him feel both the soft and the rough side of your tongue.

When is the best time to give a blowjob during sex?

    • Generally, most people like to give blowjobs at the start of sex and this is probably because oral sex is softer. Oral sex for both of you can be a great way to warm up prior to sex, but there is no rule that says blowjobs can only be at the beginning of sex. It can be a great way to slow down and draw out the fun, or even a fun way to end sex - if you enjoy it that way.
      The general rule is: if you feel like doing it, he is probably not going to complain.

What should I do with his foreskin? Do I move the skin when giving a blowjob?

    • When an uncircumcised man is un-aroused, his foreskin will generally be covering the head of his penis. As the man becomes aroused and the penis grows, the skin in some cases may retract from the head, however it usually remains covering the head.
      While the foreskin is an erogenous zone, it's also there to protect the head and is why uncut guys have a more sensitive head than cut guys. So when you are giving an uncircumcised guy head, you can pull the foreskin back straight away to uncover his wonderfully sensitive cock head, but you can earn extra points by playing with the skin a little - trying to slip your tongue under it, or trying to push the skin back with your lips and tongue rather than pull it back with your hand. Remember it is an erogenous zone, so don't leave it out!

How can I give a good blowjob if I am shy?

    • If you want to give your lover a blowjob, but feel too shy about initiating it, then try remembering that as much as you want to give him a blowjob, most guys once you let them know, would love to let you give them a blowjob too.
      If you want to give him a blowjob, but feel shy or insecure about the act itself then you have to remember two things:
      1. If you feel uncomfortable about taking part in any sexual act, you should not allow yourself to be pressured into doing it. If you aren't enjoying it, then you should always feel comfortable about saying stop at any time.
      2. If you do want to, but just feel insecure about how you might look, how you might perform, or anything else like that, don't worry. Give yourself time to learn what works for both of you. Remember that he will be caught up in the pleasure of the blowjob and won't be criticizing how you look doing it. (And guys like to watch. It can be a bit hard not to feel self-conscious sometimes, but if it didn't look good to them they wouldn't watch!) It might be hard, but just try to relax into what you are doing. He will be caught up enjoying the blowjob, and won't be worrying about a single thing else.

Why do guys like to watch when I give him a blowjob?

    • Guys love to watch. They love to watch you give them head and it is true of every guy. But why??
      Well the first thing is you are playing with his most favorite thing in the world. He wants to see if you like it as much as he does. If you can show him how much you love it then you are already halfway to giving him an amazing blowjob.
      The other reason guys love to watch is it is just how they are built. Guys and girls are different in how they get and stay aroused. Where girls get turned on emotionally, guys get turned on visually. That's why guys enjoy porn more than girls.
      So even though it can be uncomfortable, make you nervous and self-conscious the best thing to remember is that he is looking at you because he is enjoying it. You might think you look a bit silly, but to him it is the sexiest thing he has ever seen.
      You can read more in our blowjob guide about why men are turned on by blowjobs.

Is it fun to give a blowjob?

    • Yes. Giving a blowjob is fun if you are mature and confident in yourself, if you are in a sexy mood, and if you aren't feeling pressured by anyone. Pressure can come from him, your friends, society, TV or anyone else. If you are new to sex and blowjobs, read this blowjob information for beginners.
      The main contributing factor to whether a blowjob is fun is you - how you feel. If you don't feel like you want to do it, it will never be fun and you should never do anything sexual unless you want to and are having fun too.
      If you are looking for some ideas to make your blowjobs a little more fun and exciting, try these blowjob tips and techniques.

How do you indicate that you want to give a blowjob?

    • The answer to this depends on so many things: the situation; your age and experience; your relationship with the man; how comfortable you are talking about things like this.
      Generally it's not something you need to indicate you want to do, it something you just do. That you're doing it is a pretty big indication you want to, and wanting to is one of the most important parts of giving a good blowjob.
      Assuming this question comes from a younger person new to the world of sex - you can try literally telling your boyfriend you want to give him a blowjob. But you might not be comfortable just coming out with it like that, so another way to indicate you want to give a blowjob is to just slowly move into it. Start out kissing and touching, then move your hand to his cock. Undo his pants and get his cock out and stroke him while you are kissing. Then, just dive in. Of course, wait for an appropriate time and place.
      On the other hand, if you are more experienced with sex and are just wondering how you can show your boyfriend you want to give him a blowjob then you first need to get his attention. If he is busy he may not want the distraction but 99 out of 100 guys won't mind being interrupted for a blowjob! So, get in front of him and get his attention. Kiss him and grab his cock through his pants, give him a sexy little smile and start undoing his pants and by that time he will be well aware of your intentions and most likely will be happy enough to let you do what you want to do.

Is it ok to stop half way through a blowjob?

    • Most guys will adamantly tell you "NO! Never stop half way through a blowjob!" And it sure is a teasing thing to do with your partner - especially if you have led them to believe you are giving them that special "It's all about you right now." blowjob.
      But the answer is always "Never do anything you don't want to." So if halfway through the act you decide you don't want to continue or you start feeling uncomfortable you absolutely should speak up. - "Sorry, that's all." with a wink or "Sorry, I need to stop." is all you need say.
      If it is with your partner and you've built it up then obviously he's going to feel let down but if you're new with this guy (not what this blog is about, but I'll mention it anyway) and you suddenly don't feel comfortable; stop! So yes, it is ok to stop half way through a blowjob. 
      Also, a short blowjob as part of sex is a whole different beast and is absolutely normal. Every time you take his cock into your mouth doesn't mean full-blowjob-time. Oral sex is a very important part of foreplay.

What part of his cock should I focus on when giving a blowjob?

    • The place you want to focus on is the head, and specifically the underside, just below the "V" created by the ridge. When you stand facing a man, then kneel down and take his cock into your mouth, this perfectly places his cock for maximum pleasure. From this position, that sweet spot will be sitting directly on your tongue.
      But you don't want to focus all your attention on the head and sweet spot as it can sometimes be numbing. Good blowjobs have variation and the rest of his cock, his balls and other hidden spots are all erotically sensitive areas!

How do you know when he is going to come?

    • You may have noticed that when you are receiving sexual pleasure, often you can come close to orgasm then fall back from that feeling, maybe come close again and fall back again until with enough time and the right stimulation you can come. Guys are the same so you may experience the following warning signs periodically throughout a blowjob until he actually does come, but here are some signs that he is getting close to coming:
      1. Breathing and moaning - his breathing may get heavier, faster and especially right before he comes he may hold his breath for a short time as the orgasm overwhelms him or if he isn't afraid to make noise then you may notice a change in his moans.
      2. He may just tell you - some guys don't say anything, others like to tell you they are coming. If they don't actually say they are going to come, they may be urging you to "keep going", or "don't stop" with quite some urgency.
      3. His penis swells - just before he comes often you can feel his cock and particularly the head swell. This however isn't restricted to just before he comes, and you may feel this change throughout the blowjob.
      4. His grip - if he is holding your hand or perhaps his hands are in your hair or on your head, you may notice his grip gets a little tighter. This is a good signal that he might be just about to come, or if not, that what you are doing feels really good.

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